Editor #12
The first thing that needs to be addressed is the fact that no two girls are the same. There will always be exceptions to what is considered universally “normal.” That being said, it would be a good idea to note that generally speaking, humor is definitely a “bonus” when it comes to what girls like in a guy. Making someone laugh, no matter what gender, almost always creates a relaxed atmosphere that helps people bond more easily. Girls tend to like feeling secure and warm when around people; therefore, a guy who is able to make them laugh definitely catches their attention. However, making too many jokes, especially those that may come across as harsh or vulgar, may be viewed as obnoxious, rude, immature or just annoying. There is a fine line between attractive humor and unattractive humor. If you are careful not to cross this line, all should work out well. In addition, nice guys tend to feel like they do not receive as much attention as the more aggressive and even “mean” guys out there. It seems as if girls tend to gravitate towards the “bad boy” type. Why is that? I believe that it is because girls like a challenge. This may seem contrary to the idea that girls like to feel safe with a boy; however, it can make sense if not thought of in a straightforward manner. Bad boys seem strong and masculine, even if they really aren’t. Acting aggressively tends to come across as more “manly” and “protective.” Unfortunately, many girls who fall for this are often misled. Instead of the incredibly strong and supportive man they think they are getting, they end up with a total jerk. Once the initial “spell” — if you can call it that — rubs off, girls realize that maybe the “bad boys” aren’t the best options. This realization often comes with maturity and the ability to properly judge personalities. This is where I believe the nice and /or funny guys come into play. Immature girls tend to overlook the caring and sweet guys out there and shun them to the dreaded “friend zone.” However, specific girls, those that have learned from mistakes or have a natural sense of maturity, will realize that nice guys are a great option. As a nice guy, finding these girls may seem difficult, especially in high school. However, they are out there, you just need to find them. No matter what “type” of guy you are, remember not to change yourself in order to be the guy with all the girls. There is someone out there for everyone. The challenge and fun of it is finding him or her.