Editor #21
It’s perfectly okay to feel confused. Relationships are seldom as black and white as we wish they would be, so don’t beat yourself up over ambivalent emotions. When you fall in love with someone, you literally become addicted to that person. Your brain triggers glands to pump dopamine, a hormone also found in cocaine, through your body, which creates the feeling of a euphoric high; his love was your drug.
Before you decide whether or not you wish to continue your relationship with your ex-significant other, give yourself time—perhaps a few days or even a couple of weeks—to clear your mind of any strong and extreme emotions, which are usually not rational and often very Romeo-esque. You will be more confident in the decision you make when you analyze your problem with a fresh head.
If you are feeling love, anger, guilt, etc., explore those feelings. Did you experience these emotions during the relationship? If so, did they hold the same meaning and context then as they do now? Introspect away! Feeling like a jumbled mess is natural at the moment; there is no shame in contemplation. Just be sure you do not stop respecting yourself and caring for your mind and body.
Should you keep
your ex-boyfriend? Well, do you truly want me to decide your future for you? You will only find peace if you make the decision for yourself; it will give you a sense of empowerment and control over the situation. If your ex does not wish to get back together anytime soon, then the relationship is obviously over. Yes, you will probably never forget the time the two of you spent together, but you will find the strength to carry on.