Editor #3
Labeling yourself as “really gorgeous” is something that you need to keep as a private thought from now on. Although it may be true, you must understand that this comes off as conceited if you express it outwardly. If your friends are jealous of anything, it is not of your outward appearance, but of your confidence. It might not even be that your friends are “jealous” of you. This is probably a hard thing to hear, but “annoyed” is probably the better word to describe how they feel. In high school, it is hard to come across a person, particularly a girl, who is not insecure about herself in at least one aspect. However, it is also hard to come across a girl who is ugly, fat and stupid all in one. Therefore, your friends are most likely fishing for ways to make you feel bad in hopes that some of your confidence will transfer to them. They must realize that insulting someone will do the opposite effect. They intend to make you feel bad, but deep down, they know that the insults towards their friend make them feel guilty.
If you do verbalize your love for yourself often, try this: for every time you say something about yourself, give someone a genuine compliment. Not only will you bolster your self-esteem, you will spread this to others and make them feel as good as you do. Along with this you should try to ignore the nasty adjectives your “friends” place on you. Will it hurt to allow their comments slide past you? Absolutely. Your friends, however, might see that their insults are not strong enough to hurt you. If ignoring their comments does not work, you can try to discuss with your friends that you are hurt by their comments. An open discussion about the way you treat each other may actually reveal true feelings and clear up any misconceptions your friends may have about you, and vice versa. Do not just wait for an outside witness to come along and report what your friends are doing to you, because playing the victim will only make you seem more vulnerable in front of your friends.
What if you have tried talking to them already, and they still continue to bother you? That speaks to the character of your friends: poor. People who do not take the opportunity to listen to your feelings when they are presented are not there to be your supporters, but rather your challengers. You bother them with your confidence in yourself, so they retaliate by trying to bother you back.