Editor#73
Different events stimulate different reactions and emotions in people and no two beings can be expected to react in exactly the same way when confronted with a situation. Every person thinks and acts in a manner that is unique to him or herself. This holds true for romantic situations; just as there are the many types of guys, as we discussed in the responses to your previous question, there are also various types of girls. This makes it impossible to create a specific outline as to what girls do when they have feelings for a boy. This also explains why you, and many others, find understanding the opposite sex very confusing. To narrow down the topic a bit, I will only focus on two very general “types” of girls; the outgoing vs. the shy (keep in mind that not everyone will fit these molds). First, you must figure out how the girl you are interested in tends to behave and how she reacts to specific situations. Does she tend to make her feelings known? Is she confident and outspoken? Or is she more reserved and introverted? The answers to these questions are crucial to deciphering the signals that she may or may not be sending you.
First, I will discuss the outgoing girls and try to explain this as easily as possible. These people seem to make their feelings rather obvious and a girl with this type of personality may act overly talkative while in your presence. In addition, she may go to great lengths to start up a conversation with you, even if it is about something extremely random and superficial. Another thing girls do is attempt to stand apart from the crowd. This means that she wants attention from you, however, it can be hard to tell if she wants the attention because she likes you or if it is because she is just that type of person. One way to distinguish between the two is if you catch her looking at you a lot. A girl may do this because she is constantly checking to see if you are looking at her yet, or even if you are looking at someone else. In addition, girls tend to share their feelings with their friends. When you approach her, do you notice that her friends react in a certain way? Do they get excited? Do they get awkwardly quiet? I mention this because the ability to read a girl’s friends may be more telling than trying to read the girl herself because her friends may not be careful enough to hide their excitement. I would also suggest paying attention to how she carries herself when you talk to her. When a girl likes a guy she may blush, get fidgety and excited, play with her hair, express positive and inviting body language, lean towards him or smile often. However, some may not even do any of this. Instead, they simply act like they do around their friends. This is the specific difference that makes trying to figure out other people’s feelings difficult. As a result, the best advice I can give you is to go with what seems natural. It doesn’t matter how much you study female behavior because not everyone acts the same. One outgoing girl may show all of the signs I have listed above, while another may show none. Thus, I suggest you stay on the lookout for the signs I have mentioned; however, if none are present, it could either be that she is better at hiding her feelings or that she simply doesn’t like you.
Keep in mind that the shy girl approach is extremely different than that of the more outgoing. If the girl you have feelings for is like this, try and take into consideration how much eye contact she makes with you. A shy girl will have trouble with this and may avoid looking directly at you for long periods of time if she likes you. In fact, she will most likely look at you when she thinks you won’t notice. In addition, you must take her body language into consideration as well. Shy girls tend to become very stiff and rigid when in close proximity to the guys they like. Thus, she probably won’t feel comfortable initiating conversation with you; instead she probably hopes that you approach her. Yet, while talking to her friends, she may try to significantly increase the volume of her voice in order to catch your attention. This may be her way of letting you know how “outgoing” she can be. On the other hand, she may become extremely silent when you try to talk to her because she has no idea what to say. Do not mistake this for a loss of interest; just keep in mind that she is an introverted person. However, the lack of of conversation doesn’t necessarily mean she likes you. This is where your instincts must come in. Do you sense animosity or uncertainty coming from her? If she is uncertain just be patient with her and continue starting conversations with her until she feels comfortable enough around you to start one herself.
Overall, while one girl may be very easy to read, another may not. Identifying the signs each girl gives when she likes someone is a very difficult task that usually cannot be deciphered by simply looking for signals. Make sure you go with what seems natural and don’t try to force anything.