Editor #20
Jealousy is more often than not triggered when a person believes him or herself to be inferior to another. Every person deals with this emotion differently and it is often difficult to determine whether or not a specific behavior is due to jealousy or something else. An envious person might try to better him or herself or avoid the person he or she is jealous of. This person may even attempt to bring the other down to his or her own level, or lower. Whether this is done through insults, nasty rumors, gossip or any other method of sabotage, the goal is always the same: to put down the virtues of the other person and make him or her feel insecure. It seems like your friends are trying to make you think that you are not as pretty as you believe you are. This may be because they are envious of you, or there could be other reasons. If they truly are jealous, there isn’t much you can do because the problem lies within them, not you. You cannot allow yourself to be less than your best because someone else is jealous. Therefore, the best thing to do is to not allow mean comments to depress you; think of them as compliments instead. When someone who is jealous insults your weight, know that they are probably only saying this because they are desperately trying to find something wrong with you so that they can improve their own self esteem; it does not mean that you are actually fat. Let the insults and degrading comments slide past you and never give them a second thought. Jealous people usually cannot help what they say and how they make others feel; they simply want to make their own pain subside even if it is only temporary. If you allow them to get you down then you are simply giving them what they want. Instead, do just the opposite: be happy, be yourself and be everything that makes you amazing. Do not let the haters bring you down to their level and maybe even consider finding some new friends with fewer personal issues.